strangers again - wongfu production
berhubung nganggur dan hari minggu kemaren gue dalam keadaan terawkward tingkat antariksa, jadi gw harus nulis lagi
people change rite?
but
how funny people that was ever be the most important of your life, become a strangers again
cerita 1
ya, kemarin minggu gw pergi ke gereja, kaya biasa sih
berhubung mami pergi ke jakarta karena ada undangan pernikahan jadi gue ga ada temen gereja kan
hari sabtunya pun gw jadi ga ada kerjaan, makanya akhirnya gw kontak temen Yoga&Nicko
mereka temen tergabut yang bisa diajak pergi kapan aja, thankyou loh you two ({})
pas pergi itu tadinya kita mau ke trademark 7 PVJ (acara pameran dan jualan local brand gitu) tapi karena kejebak macet dan udah kemaleman gajadi
nah pas itu sekalian lah gw ajak mereka berdua buat ke gereja bareng besoknya, sekalian abis itu ke trademark
si yoga gabisa, jadilah yaudah gw duaan sm si nicko
NAH WOY
kan kita ke katedral kan ya biar cepet ke pvjnya
duduk di sebelah kiri yang lumayan belakang
tiba-tiba, cowok 6 May nyapa gw 'La!'
terus gw salting gt ya hai!
dan dia sama cewe yang kabarnya udah putus, langsung kepo tingkat brontosaurus sih itu
terus berapa detik setelah sapaan itu, gw baru sadar kl gw cm 2an sama si nicko! which is sebenernya hopeng banget aja kan
dan pas keluar gereja, gw ketemu cowo yg gue gapernah ceritain di blog, dan gw jahat banget sih sama dia, dia suka, ngejer, dan ternyata gw gasuka, tp gw baik walopun ga ngasih harapan, sebut saja dia....mmmmm......biksu (botak soalnya sekarang)
dan dia jg langsung nyapa nicko -_- bzzzzzzzz knp sih
waktu disitu dlm hati gw cuma, yah gabisa jelasin deh ke cowo 6 may, tapi yaudah lah, mana mau tau jg sih dia ttg gue
eh! pas temen gw suru tanyain ttg sepatu adidas ke dia (dia jualan sepatu)
berhubung waktu itu kita masih ababil dan putus juga baik-baik, kita masih saling sapa dan kontak juga walopun jarang banget
dan well! end up dengan kita chat dan dia bilang kalo dia udah putus lama, kemarin kebetulan aja dia gereja bareng, dan gue pun jelasin yang sama. selesai disitu. ga ada pembicaraan lagi
cerita 2
yang ini sebenernya bukan masalah gue, tp masalah sobat yang udah pacaran 5 taun ( 4 sih tp pdktnya 1 taun)
dia......putus.
cowonya yang minta
dengan alesan ini itu
dan emang mereka lagi ada di the lowest point sih keadaannya
sobat gw ini sedih banget, dan gue yang selama ini tau perjuangannya, ikut sedih
soalnya she has already fallen too deep, terlalu
bahkan kedua keluarga udah kenal dan masa depannya hampir pasti bersama
tapi masih gantung gitu sih sekarang statusnya, karena sebenernya masih bingung dan temen gw ini masih blm bisa terima
ya kita doain yang terbaik aja
nah dari kedua cerita diatas
gue inget pernah nonton salah satu film youtubers yaitu Wong Fu Productions
dan ceritanya berjudul Strangers, Again
bagus parah iya banget
kenapa orang asing itu bisa pernah jadi orang terpenting dalam hidup gue dan seketika jadi orang asing lagi, manusia, aneh ya
ini gue kasih ulasan dan proses dari Strangers Again:
*argue*
'it was always like this'
'cant remember when it wasn't but I know for sure we weren't always like this'
'she/he used to be my "Unicorn" : unbelievable, crazy special, the grow I thought could never exists, but as time went on from one stage a relationship to the next, the path that started off so innocent, fun, has taken us to, 'that'(the argue), but like most the start of a strangers, at stage 1 meeting thanks to issue a sexually"
Stage 1 : Meeting
- its opportunity to see our guys will do, just about anything for the right, but it paid off, because I got a number
- I remember the feeling like I'm a pretty good impression
Stage 2 : The Chase (some says this the best part)
- All I want was to know more about her/him
- All I want to do was hang out with her/him
- The only person I wanted to talk to (till dawn)
- She/he was the number one card
- And every time I saw her/him, butterflies :)
- She/he was everything that I thought can be perfect in a group, as soon as a far-right
"would you be my girl/boyfriend? ya"
with this simple word, there will begin a relationship
Stage 3 : Honeymoon (everyone calls this every good reason)
- was the time when we could finally fully express our affection for each other
- do all the things we want to do as a couple, was a dream come true
- the girl/boy i wanted to be with sosososooooo bad was finally mine
- but eventually the fire was simmer down back to normalcy
by the end of all we had Julia pictures with each other, knew every detail over daily lives
and like any normal healthy couple we entered stage 4
Stage 4 : Comfortable
- being comfortable isn't necessarily bad, it's when we could truly be ourselves, but it depends on what you do with a comfort, some use it positively, continuing to work at their relationship, grow together, but others allow it to create distance
- i made us take each other for granted
- whether it's taking each other for granted when people changing over time
- bottom line is someone stops trying, feelings on as strong as before, this could happen after few months/years
Stage 5 : Tolerance
- Somehow a girl/boy I was so crazy about a year ago, had turned to someone who just wasn't that special anymore, happened so gradually that I didn't see coming, but, everywhere just tolerating each other.
- arguing is one thing feeling dissatisfied unhappy with the relationship is another, we tried various times to try make changes to fix things like so many couples out there
- it wasn't enough, we became one of those relationships where it wasn't bad but it was great
let me tell you that's never good way to describe the relationship
Stage 6 : Downhill (there's not much time left)
- the effort to try to make things work just isn't worth it anymore
- problems continue
reason I, sad to say are nearing the end of the stage, what's next is what happen to everyone at some point and if the line, worst stage ever
Stage 7 : Breaking up
- I don't know when it'll happen or how, but I hope we can leave it on good, mutual terms, if that's ever truly possible
this when the two of us will start a new path, when that leads right back to where we started : STRANGERS
the change will be so drastic, so blunt, there will probably want to get back together right away, just restore what's going on
but this doesn't always happen and the distance will grow
and eventually the two of us will move on or find someone new
and even when we both get over the past and try to remain friends, things will never be the same.
allies will continue on the different directions, becoming strangers again
and everything we sure will just become fragmented memories, from so long ago a question if it even really happened
"the stranger was the most important person in my life"
ini linknya buat yg tertarik nonton: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY
people change rite?
but
how funny people that was ever be the most important of your life, become a strangers again
cerita 1
ya, kemarin minggu gw pergi ke gereja, kaya biasa sih
berhubung mami pergi ke jakarta karena ada undangan pernikahan jadi gue ga ada temen gereja kan
hari sabtunya pun gw jadi ga ada kerjaan, makanya akhirnya gw kontak temen Yoga&Nicko
mereka temen tergabut yang bisa diajak pergi kapan aja, thankyou loh you two ({})
pas pergi itu tadinya kita mau ke trademark 7 PVJ (acara pameran dan jualan local brand gitu) tapi karena kejebak macet dan udah kemaleman gajadi
nah pas itu sekalian lah gw ajak mereka berdua buat ke gereja bareng besoknya, sekalian abis itu ke trademark
si yoga gabisa, jadilah yaudah gw duaan sm si nicko
NAH WOY
kan kita ke katedral kan ya biar cepet ke pvjnya
duduk di sebelah kiri yang lumayan belakang
tiba-tiba, cowok 6 May nyapa gw 'La!'
terus gw salting gt ya hai!
dan dia sama cewe yang kabarnya udah putus, langsung kepo tingkat brontosaurus sih itu
terus berapa detik setelah sapaan itu, gw baru sadar kl gw cm 2an sama si nicko! which is sebenernya hopeng banget aja kan
dan pas keluar gereja, gw ketemu cowo yg gue gapernah ceritain di blog, dan gw jahat banget sih sama dia, dia suka, ngejer, dan ternyata gw gasuka, tp gw baik walopun ga ngasih harapan, sebut saja dia....mmmmm......biksu (botak soalnya sekarang)
dan dia jg langsung nyapa nicko -_- bzzzzzzzz knp sih
waktu disitu dlm hati gw cuma, yah gabisa jelasin deh ke cowo 6 may, tapi yaudah lah, mana mau tau jg sih dia ttg gue
eh! pas temen gw suru tanyain ttg sepatu adidas ke dia (dia jualan sepatu)
berhubung waktu itu kita masih ababil dan putus juga baik-baik, kita masih saling sapa dan kontak juga walopun jarang banget
dan well! end up dengan kita chat dan dia bilang kalo dia udah putus lama, kemarin kebetulan aja dia gereja bareng, dan gue pun jelasin yang sama. selesai disitu. ga ada pembicaraan lagi
cerita 2
yang ini sebenernya bukan masalah gue, tp masalah sobat yang udah pacaran 5 taun ( 4 sih tp pdktnya 1 taun)
dia......putus.
cowonya yang minta
dengan alesan ini itu
dan emang mereka lagi ada di the lowest point sih keadaannya
sobat gw ini sedih banget, dan gue yang selama ini tau perjuangannya, ikut sedih
soalnya she has already fallen too deep, terlalu
bahkan kedua keluarga udah kenal dan masa depannya hampir pasti bersama
tapi masih gantung gitu sih sekarang statusnya, karena sebenernya masih bingung dan temen gw ini masih blm bisa terima
ya kita doain yang terbaik aja
nah dari kedua cerita diatas
gue inget pernah nonton salah satu film youtubers yaitu Wong Fu Productions
dan ceritanya berjudul Strangers, Again
bagus parah iya banget
kenapa orang asing itu bisa pernah jadi orang terpenting dalam hidup gue dan seketika jadi orang asing lagi, manusia, aneh ya
ini gue kasih ulasan dan proses dari Strangers Again:
*argue*
'it was always like this'
'cant remember when it wasn't but I know for sure we weren't always like this'
'she/he used to be my "Unicorn" : unbelievable, crazy special, the grow I thought could never exists, but as time went on from one stage a relationship to the next, the path that started off so innocent, fun, has taken us to, 'that'(the argue), but like most the start of a strangers, at stage 1 meeting thanks to issue a sexually"
Stage 1 : Meeting
- its opportunity to see our guys will do, just about anything for the right, but it paid off, because I got a number
- I remember the feeling like I'm a pretty good impression
Stage 2 : The Chase (some says this the best part)
- All I want was to know more about her/him
- All I want to do was hang out with her/him
- The only person I wanted to talk to (till dawn)
- She/he was the number one card
- And every time I saw her/him, butterflies :)
- She/he was everything that I thought can be perfect in a group, as soon as a far-right
"would you be my girl/boyfriend? ya"
with this simple word, there will begin a relationship
Stage 3 : Honeymoon (everyone calls this every good reason)
- was the time when we could finally fully express our affection for each other
- do all the things we want to do as a couple, was a dream come true
- the girl/boy i wanted to be with sosososooooo bad was finally mine
- but eventually the fire was simmer down back to normalcy
by the end of all we had Julia pictures with each other, knew every detail over daily lives
and like any normal healthy couple we entered stage 4
Stage 4 : Comfortable
- being comfortable isn't necessarily bad, it's when we could truly be ourselves, but it depends on what you do with a comfort, some use it positively, continuing to work at their relationship, grow together, but others allow it to create distance
- i made us take each other for granted
- whether it's taking each other for granted when people changing over time
- bottom line is someone stops trying, feelings on as strong as before, this could happen after few months/years
Stage 5 : Tolerance
- Somehow a girl/boy I was so crazy about a year ago, had turned to someone who just wasn't that special anymore, happened so gradually that I didn't see coming, but, everywhere just tolerating each other.
- arguing is one thing feeling dissatisfied unhappy with the relationship is another, we tried various times to try make changes to fix things like so many couples out there
- it wasn't enough, we became one of those relationships where it wasn't bad but it was great
let me tell you that's never good way to describe the relationship
Stage 6 : Downhill (there's not much time left)
- the effort to try to make things work just isn't worth it anymore
- problems continue
reason I, sad to say are nearing the end of the stage, what's next is what happen to everyone at some point and if the line, worst stage ever
Stage 7 : Breaking up
- I don't know when it'll happen or how, but I hope we can leave it on good, mutual terms, if that's ever truly possible
this when the two of us will start a new path, when that leads right back to where we started : STRANGERS
the change will be so drastic, so blunt, there will probably want to get back together right away, just restore what's going on
but this doesn't always happen and the distance will grow
and eventually the two of us will move on or find someone new
and even when we both get over the past and try to remain friends, things will never be the same.
allies will continue on the different directions, becoming strangers again
and everything we sure will just become fragmented memories, from so long ago a question if it even really happened
"the stranger was the most important person in my life"
ini linknya buat yg tertarik nonton: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSdELZxEnHY
Bagus bgt ulasannya dan riil bgt.. Karena lw masih sangat muda dan punya hati yg sangat tulus, gw coba share sesuatu.. Menurut gw, dlm menjalin hubungan, butuh beberapa hal yang harus dipahami betul, 2 hal yang cukup penting diantaranya adalah cinta (tentu ajah) dan komitmen (dalam berbagai bentuk).
ReplyDeleteHal pertama yaitu cinta, yaah gw gag usah banyak cerita soal cinta lah yaah lw pasti ngeti juga apa itu cinta dan bagaimana rasanya..
Namun hal yg berikutnya tidak semua orang paham dan mau.. Komitmen.. Hal ini mungkin akan dirasakan saat sudah menjalin hubungan lbh dr 1 thn atau 2 thn (tergantung situasi), memang komitmen tidak selama disadari sejak awal (saat masa" bahagia), namun tetiba lw di posisi tolerance or downhill, disanalah komitmen bekerja.. Seperti pupuk, ketika bunga sudah mulai bermekaran dan butuh asupan gizi lebih banyak, makan harus ditambah pupuk (dan air), begitu juga dengan komitmen, saat bnyk masalah melanda, lw sudah mulai lelah, seakan tidak ada masa depan, mulai terkekang, tidak kehilangan "rasa" (gw gag tau kenapa org bisa kehilangan rasa sayang or cinta seketika, sekompleks itukah hidup manusia diciptakan? Atau manusia menciptakan hidup sekompleks itu?). Komitmen bisa dlm berbagai macam bentuk, saat sudah merasa tidak nyaman dan mulai kehilangan rasa, cobalah untuk mengingat kembali apa yang telah membuat lw sayang sm pasangan lw, apakah hal itu sudah tidak ada? Ataukah lw cuma butuh sesuatu yg lebih (sist, sifat dasar manusia memang selalu ingin yg lebih), pliiiss kontrol diri kalian gag semuanya yg lebih itu baik, coba refresh lagi kenapa kalin jatuh cinta sama pasangan kalian yg saat ini katanya kalian sudah kehilangan "rasa". Kemudian tumbuhkan kembali kenangan indah brg pasangan yang selalu bisa bikin lw senyum malu semdiri klo inget" hal itu, gali lagi kenangan itu, buat suasana hati lw sendiri berbunga-bunga dengan kenangan indah, karena hakikatnya bahwa manusia tidak akan pernah memiliki fisik pasangan hingga kapanpun, yg mereka miliki adalah kenangan (sangat penting), seseorang yang gw kenal deket, sudah ditinggal pasangannya (meninggal) lbh dari 5 thn, tapi hingga kini dia gag berusaha cari pasangan lain, karena menurut dia, dy masih merasa bahwa kenangan pasangannya selalu menjadi motivator dia untuk terus semangat berkarya dan dia merasa dia tidak butuh pasangan baru (subyektif bgt c, tp ada org seperti itu).. Komitmen berikutnya yang sebenarnya sangat mungkin dilakukan adalah "komunikasi", apapun yang terjadi harus dikomunikasikan, jangan dipendam atau dirahasiakan, gag baik buat hubungan..
Sebenernya bnyk yg pengen gw share ke lw, cumaaa, ini dah jam kerja n hectic bgt, so I'll call u to nite.. C yaah..